RETIREDFAN1 Posted May 24, 2020 Share Posted May 24, 2020 Frankness Most of us want people to like us. We don’t want people to think bad of us. Instead, we want people to respect us. It is that basic desire that Satan uses against us. James 1:13-16Behind “pride of life” is the simple desire of wanting to get along with people and enjoy their respect. I John 2:15-17Our words and actions reflect our inclination. We often try to avoid conflict, which isn’t necessarily a bad thing. James 1:19-20But we can take it too far. A contributor to World War II was the attempt to appease Nazi Germany in its aggression. It didn’t work.But you can see it closer to home in parenting. Parents who want to be their child’s friend, so they work at avoiding any conflict and are surprised that they end up with spoiled brats. On the surface, it seems that telling someone they are wrong isn’t the way to gain his respect and admiration. Proverbs 28:23To rebuke means to be right, to set to right, to show what is right, to decide, judge, reprove or correct. In a legal sense, it means to render judgment. For example, Laban accused Jacob of stealing his household idols, but could not show proof. Genesis 31:37Then Jacob announced that God had rendered judgment on, or rebuked Laban in a dream that night. Genesis 31:42It can also mean to bring a charge against, as with a lawyer. We can see this in Job’s complaint. Job 19:5It can be also be people sitting down to decide what is right. Isaiah 1:18Of course, it also means to correct. But notice there is always the implication it is toward what is right. It was required as the counter to hatred. Leviticus 19:17-18To rebuke someone requires courage and love of your fellow man. It requires enough of this to overcome the fear of his anger. Think about how much courage it took Nathan to tell the great King David that he was a sinner. We often don’t think about it, but some prophets lost their lives doing this very thing. II Chronicles 24:17-22Just because they were delivering a message from God didn’t mean they were shielded from men’s anger.Rebuking ought to be painful for us. We should not enjoy the fact that someone is in sin or that we need to correct them. Ecclesiastes 7:5-6“Nothing is more irritating or hardening than to be rebuked by one who evidently enjoys his office. But if the one who points out our fault is evidently deeply pained himself, we must be very obdurate [stubborn] if we are insensible to such an appeal. The wayward child is conquered, not by the rod in his mother’s hand, but by the tears in her eyes.” [E. Hurndall].We have a good example in the example of Paul. II Corinthians 2:4Rebuking cannot be avoided. It is commanded. If someone sins against you, you are required to rebuke him. Luke 17:3You have to tell someone when there is a fault, or they may never know it. Matthew 18:15It is not a punishment. It is a call to repentance. II Corinthians 7:8-11In the long run, rebuke is more likely to bring admiration and respect than displeasure. “We are so prone to self-love, and pride, that the most prudent, and needful, rebukes are apt to create transient displeasure. Yet upon reflection most men will have a better opinion of a faithful reprover, than of a soothing flatterer, and will show him more favor.” [T. Scott]A wise man will love you for it. Proverbs 9:8It is more effective on a wise man. Proverbs 17:10A delight and blessing with come upon the one who rebukes. Proverbs 24:24-25That is why open rebuke is better. Proverbs 27:5Not everyone will be happy about being rebuked. Those who reject the warning have no love for the one who warns.Proverbs 9:7-8 Sudden destruction awaits these folks. Proverbs 29:1 Flattery will fail. You aren’t helping people by telling them they are right as they are. Proverbs 24:24The failure of flattery is that the flatterer is only thinking of himself. Psalm 12:1-4“He who gives us kisses when he ought to give us reproof, or who holds back deserved rebuke from cowardice, is more cruel than if he withheld from us an indispensable medicine simply because it had a bitter taste. And if a wound is to be probed it is surely better for the patient that it should be done by a skillful and tender hand than by one who has no sympathy with us and no acquaintance with our inner life.” [W. Harris] Don’t take this as saying you never give a complement. Remember that rebukes are correcting toward what is right. Thus flattery is praising people in the wrong. Flattery is a deception. Romans 16:17-18A flatterer is laying a trap. Proverbs 29:5When rebukes work, it leads to an improved change. Are you ready to change? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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